What would you say if I asked you to name one thing you do better than anyone else? This was a question a friend asked me a few weeks ago and it left me rather stumped. I could easily compile a long list of things that I excel at, but “better than anyone else?”
At 24, I am beginning to enter the “quarter life crisis” that plagues my generation. Am I working for the right company? Am I making enough money? Have I traveled enough? Have I lived enough? Do I have enough friends? Do I have the right friends? Do I live in the right city? Is my youth running out? Am I enough?
I am constantly working to deepen my self-awareness. Thus, for the last few weeks I have begun studying myself in various situations. It is so important to get to know yourself. I know my strengths and weaknesses. I know that my life is only just beginning. And yet, like the rest of my generation, I am suffocated by the notion that I must have it all figured out. Right now. Today.
The truth is that while I still cannot tell you what I do better than anyone else, I am getting there. I am very much lost in the right direction. I know what exhilarates me. I know who and what is toxic to my life and have begun making adjustments accordingly. Do not be afraid to ask yourself what you want and use tunnel vision to get there.
“The more you let go, the higher you rise.” -Yasmin Mogahed
No matter how defeated you may feel in life, be it a new goal, work, school, a friendship, or a relationship…remind yourself that some people have grit and some people don’t. You DO. You don’t let anything or anyone break you. You let yourself feel pain and disappointment, you let the tears cleanse your soul, but then you pull yourself together and you use it as fuel.
Grit** perseverance and passion; indomitable character; courage and resolve; strong self-will
Over the past few months, several of my friends (who are also into the health/fitness world) and I have found ourselves stressing over our ultimate personal goals. The society we have grown up in has practically screamed at us that quicker is better. We look for shortcuts whenever and wherever possible. However, change does not happen over night. Looking at the bigger picture becomes overwhelming and often we feel as though we are getting nowhere. What I suggested to one of my best friends was to begin making daily goals every morning and a weekly one on Mondays. I have begun doing it myself. It’s important to feel as though you are accomplishing something every single day. Women struggle enough with insecurities. We need to invest in those activities that empower us and give us the confidence we deserve. Fitness is a journey, not a destination. We can make goals and achieve them, but it is important to realize that maintaining those goals takes effort also. Hang in there, you’ll get where you are going if you want it badly enough.